
Dictionaries have
different meanings for this word. But when I think about it, my mind conjures
up images of all kinds of beautiful things that I have always associated with
love. Flowers, chocolates, candle light dinners, hearts, soft toys, clothes and
perfumes, (I hope I haven't left anything out!) these are the words that have
become synonymous with love... but, what about the feelings and emotions
associated with it!
I remember growing up with stars in my eyes and love songs ringing through my
ears. Slowly my dreams grew bigger and I started waiting for my Prince Charming
to come along and take me with him to a beautiful land where we would be
surrounded by servants, good clothes, flowers and jewelry. One day I realized
the truth about love... that it was much more than material comforts and gains.
Love
is Sharing
Believe me when I say that this is one of the most important ingredients of
love. It is important to open ones heart and share - your happiness, your
sorrows, your fears, your victories... everything, it really does not matter,
as long as the heart is clear. Love is being honest and knowing that the other
person feels the same way too, it is sharing and losing ones inhibitions and
knowing that the person on the other side will never be judgmental.
Love is Talking
Yes, love is talking. It is about speaking, telling and sharing. After some
time people restrict their conversations to discussing bills, children and
pets. This is a sure indicator of things going down hill. Bring the spark back
by starting a conversation. Talking can help solve matters that otherwise might
lead to misunderstandings. Another aspect of that is listening. Talking is useless
if the other person is not listening. Learn to listen too.
Love is Spending Time Together
A few minutes spent together everyday keeps the boredom away. I just made this
up right now, but it is because I feel there is nothing like time invested in a
relationship...believe me, it pays! Heavy work schedule takes up much time and
effort, so it is important to get things into perspective. Spending time with
each other will let you understand the other person better, help you know them
better. And I believe that it gives the relation a different feel.
Love
is Trust
When you love someone, you have to trust them. Love without trust is not
possible. When you open your heart to someone, you have to trust them to take
care of it, forever. Trust means that you have the confidence in the other
person that they will keep their promises, be faithful and be there for you
always.
Love is Faithfulness
To love means to be true, to love unconditionally means to give with all your
heart to one, and only one. Being faithful in a relationship is very important,
in love... it is the next thing to trust. Love is when you realize that that
person is the best thing that has happened to you and you want to cherish that
person and the moments spent with them, till death do you part.
Love is Being Friends
Love is being friends with each other. Enjoying simple pleasures in life like
shopping, catching a movie or watching television at home, apart from a host of
other things that "Friends" normally do! You have to tell them your
secrets and keep theirs, be there for each other, and respect and trust each
other.
And, as cliched as this may sound... Love is looking together in the same
direction, having the same goals and taking steps in that direction to make
them come true.
I would like to end with one of my favorite quotations by D. H. Lawrence:
"Love is the flower
of life, and blossoms unexpectedly
and without law, and must be plucked where it is found,
and enjoyed for the brief hour of
its duration."
